Who Do We Think We Are?
Friday, September 23rd, 2011Recently, I received a link to the article, What Teachers Really Want to Tell Parents. At first, I like (I’m certain) plenty of other teachers, felt myself saying, “Yeah, that’s right!”
…but then…
I thought about the times that my students’ perspective of situations in my classroom was different than mine.
I thought about the likelihood that those perspectives were more accurate at least some of the time.
I thought about the fact that reality, for anyone, is merely their perception of reality.
I thought about my own children.
And then…
I wondered if the author of the article has any children of his own.
I wondered if he has ever had to be the unwelcome advocate for his kids or someone else’s.
Parents have the responsibility, and therefore the right, to be a bit bothersome when they feel it is what is best for their kids. Parents are, sometimes, the only people looking out for their kids. In my opinion, that includes all of the behaviors the author whines (yes, whines) about.
Teachers, as the article’s author notes, are professionals. They are not infallible. They, we, should be kept in check. Otherwise, bad practice and poor outcomes come calling.
As professionals, we should expertly interact with parents, diffusing volatile situations by relating in ways that everyone can understand in the best interest of students. And then, maintaining our professionalism, we should smile, thank the parents for the insights they offered and not discuss the matter with other parties. Or write articles for CNN about it.
It is a shame that teachers are “run off” by parents. The solution is not to tell off the parents or vent about it in the staffroom or quit the profession. The issue is to seek guidance, support and mentoring. Maybe teachers need some customer service training. I know my decade spent as a service industry manager has probably helped me. Maybe teachers need more training in designing classroom environments that are less susceptible to parent concern.
I wonder if this kind of stuff could get into the reform discussions going on these days…
Sorry about the long post title.